Adult entertainment is a big industry. It is said they make something for nearly everyone to enjoy. Movies run from merely sensual to up-close and personal to semi-plot driven to bare bones acts caught on tape.
Most people come into contact with pornography at some point. Via the internet, there is no shortage of images and video clips to behold if you choose. Some of us are more old-fashioned, preferring magazines or movies.

My husband gets the itch to see an adult movie every year or so, and naturally he loves for me to join him in the viewing. Since it is usually more entertaining than, say, American Idol, and I know it means a lot to him, I agree.

My husband’s taste in movies that do not involve sexual acts usually runs from war to zombies, so you can imagine that his taste in adult fare is not much more complicated. I found I had to have certain skills to survive the viewing without pulling out my hair.

Such as when he brought home “Rain Woman.” It in no way resembled Rain Man, which was probably a good thing. It was, however, centered on the concept of female ejaculation. I suppose my comment of “You do realize they are just urinating on themselves” could have been a mood killer, but with all the naked women and the fact he had no blood flowing to his brain, he let it pass.

Really, to watch a porn flick with your mate, you have to assess several things. What bothers you the most about such things? Watching strangers engage in acts you normally confine to the bedroom? Seeing women who are younger, with better bodies than you? Seeing acts performed that may not be in your repertoire, and have no chance of being included? Think about it, then, if you can, push aside those taboos.

A wise woman once said “give a man a computer, and he will look at porn.” I believe this to be true. If your man/ partner has approached you with this, it is a chance to open up a new avenue of sharing. Men are very visual creatures. If the whole concept of watching others engage in intercourse is merely foreign or unappealing, and not downright offensive and disgusting, then you are a prime candidate for partaking in the adventure. If you are a “lights must be turned off” kind of person, you can for once see the gratification and stimulation your partner gets from seeing the action.

Communication is very important, especially if it is your first time viewing, and you have doubts about the whole endeavor. Have no fear in saying “You know, girl on girl action really isn’t doing it for me. Can’t we fast forward past this?”

Your inner dialogue is crucial, until you hit your comfort zone.

A woman can find herself focusing on the woman’s trim hips, but if she looks close enough (and some camera angles allow this at great length) you can see the red bumps that come from such severe shaving and waxing. Any woman with an ingrown hair knows the pain involved in that, and it can make the actor more real.

Real breasts seem to be making a comeback, which is a relief for most women who are not endowed to comic proportions.

For those of us who tend to deal with stressful situations by using humor, adult flicks can be a treasure trove of material. The shaved genitalia alone can instill enough humor for you to overlook the fact that you are watching strange people have sex on your television. If this is who you are, and your partner knows it, then some good laughs can be shared. I had my husband rolling over one pair of tiny shaved testicles that kept bouncing on our screen.

When he asked me if I would like him to shave himself, I pointed out the red itchy bumps , and said I would never put him through that (much as he accepts my own preferred haircut). We debated on whether or not the discoloration on certain body parts was due to naked tanning or just a pigmental oddity. Sure, it doesn’t sound like foreplay while watching such a film, but it opens up conversations you might not have otherwise.

You can start to count the different positions they have to do until their segment is done (I find three to be a popular number).

You can find out what a person likes, doesn’t like, or assure them that they are doing that even better. You can point out what you like or don’t, or remind them that no woman really wants to gargle that, or use it as hair conditioner.

Truly, watching an adult movie with your husband or partner isn’t that bad. It is pretty much guaranteed that the night will end well, ultimately. They are so grateful that you shared this with them that they would do anything to make sure you have a good time, including letting you sleep in and cooking breakfast the next day.

And if watching some lengthy sessions of whatever act floats your boat, and gets you in the mood, why not? You won’t know until you try.